Are you constantly using others as a bench mark for setting your own goals?
If so, you are treading in dangerous territory. It’s a habit that needs to change.
Allowing others to dictate what it is that you are going after in your own life will have a significant influence on your positive outlook because you are putting your success or failure on something that is out of your own control.
YOU ARE YOUR ONLY COMPARISON
Truth is, you can’t control how other people perform, behave or what they have in their lives…it is beyond your control and mine. The only true control you have is your own self, your own progress and your own actions.
The best and healthiest comparisons you should be making is to look at your own yesterdays. Have you made progress? Are you better today than you were yesterday and have you moved forward in some manner towards your goals? Have you demonstrated growth?
The world’s too big for comparisons with others. They are not advantageous to anyone. If you engage this system, there will always be someone out there who is better than you. There’s simply no escaping it, so to strive to be the absolute “best in something” is a great way to set yourself up for failure.
Don’t strive to be “the best”…strive to be “your best.” Now you have a goal that is 100% completely in your reach and your control and this empowers you rather than stripping you of your power.
Of course it’s perfectly fine to adopt someone you admire as a “role model” someone you turn to for inspiration. But, never set your goals on being “just like them.” Create a better version of “you” instead.
You are free to be YOU.—Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be? Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to everyone else and what they want. Stop living for other people and their opinions. Be true to yourself. You are the only person in charge of your life. The only question is: What do you want to do with the rest of it?
DITCH THE PERFECTIONISM
And, don’t try and be 100% all the time either or you’ll feel like a complete failure the first time you slightly detour off track and you’ll slip into negative thought patterns.
Be patient and mindful with yourself and stop often to point out to yourself all the good that you have accomplished so far. If you have perfectionist tendencies (you hold yourself to impossibly high standards), avoid creating long-term goals and create smaller goals for yourself. This will help you to avoid any frustration you would otherwise feel not reaching that long-term goal now.
Bottom line is to simply focus on your own reality and remember that no one in life is absolutely perfect. Remember, it is never about “black and white” thinking…there are many shades and speeds of moving forward. You may not always be moving at top speed but as long as you are making progress in the right direction it counts.
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